Simply saying 'thank you' more often to your partner is enough to boost a relationship's happiness.
According
to a new study, the often forgotten two words of appreciation can
result in both a longer-lasting and more fulfilled relationship.
While
it may be common sense, it seems couples are taking the simple
gratitude for granted, and are overlooking its many positive effects.
Study researcher Amie Gordon, of the University of California, Berkeley, told LiveScience:
'Feeling appreciated by your partner influences how you act in your
relationship, and how much you want to stay in that relationship'.
The researchers examined 50 undergraduate participants who had been in relationships for about 15 months.
They
were asked to fill out a questionnaire nightly for one week about their
relationship, and how appreciated they felt and how appreciative they
were toward their partner.
Nine months later, the study participants were given another survey asking about their relationship.
On
days when people reported feeling more appreciated, they were more
likely to report feeling more appreciative of their partner the
following day.
The
appreciated couples were also less likely to have broken up nine months
later, and were actually more committed to each other.
Ms Gordon said: 'What goes wrong in a lot of relationships is if you start to take your partner for granted.
'Saying thank you helps you realize what you have, and makes
you want to hold on to it'
'You get used to having them in your life and forget why you chose to be with them,' she added.
The
researchers then examined couples aged 18-60, nearly half of them
living together, monitoring their interactions with each other.
The
researchers coded how the couples interacted, including how often they
touched each other, and made eye contact, and how engaged they were in
their conversations.
They
found the more often a participant acted in an understanding, validating
and caring manner toward their partner, the more appreciated their
partner felt, and the happier both were in the relationship.
Simple
behavioral displays, such as leaning in to your partner when they are
speaking, making eye contact, and giving comforting touches are
important, but often overlooked, ways that people can show gratitude.
Ms
Gordon said: 'The punch line is really that being appreciative of your
partner is beneficial in helping you want to maintain your relationship.
'When
you are appreciative and you notice the value in your partner, it helps
you realize what you have and makes you want to hold on to it. You
have something good and you think, 'I want to keep it.'
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